The biggest compliment anyone can you give…”I trust you.”
Anyone can say that they have feelings for you, but emotions are fleeting, they come and go. But, when someone looks you dead in the eyes and says, “I trust you” — that’s major!
There’s also a difference between love and being in love. It’s easier to love people, almost everyone has a lovable quality about them. I love chocolate. I love naps. I love a good sense of humor. But, being in love means you’re willing to shut all else down. You’re all in and ready to “let it ride.”
I don’t fall in love easily. Even with people I thought I loved, I don’t know if I was ever truly “in love with them.” I know I loved them as in cared about them, but in love, probably not. Sure, I had my moments, but that’s hormonal, attachment, bonding, euphoria. Not love.
I can say, “I cared for people.” I wanted the best for people.
But after time passes, and the smoke and mirrors disappears, you realize that you’re not in love with certain people and you probably never were: it was all an illusion. Even people you thought you would love forever, it just disappears. Poof. And you secretly hope they find someone else and get that “love” from someone else, because you don’t want it from them, nor do you feel those butterfly feelings for them. Not now, not ever. And not in a mean spirited way, but you just don’t love them. And you just don’t care what they do next, because you don’t care.
It’s really interesting when you arrive at this space, because you’re detached and moved on.
And you get excited about cultivating a new love. And you open your heart to someone else, who’s all about it. And you feel emotionally safe and connected and again ready to, “fall in love,” and “let it ride.”